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About sherylandharry

W/we are a married D/s couple where Miss is Domme and husband is submissive, purveyors of fine chastity devices

Au Revoir

Hello World~! It has been another year, more trials, and more tribulations everywhere one looks. We have had a wonderful time and plan many more years with each other, but we have entered a new chapter in our lives and must bid adieu to all of you. This lifestyle had its place but as we grow older we realize there is so much more to this life than fleeting moments enjoyed by the flesh.

The Peace of Christ to all of you and may you find Peace in Him as well.

Sheryl and harry

The Hiatus Is Over

W/we are soooo sorry W/we have been off the grid for 2 1/2 years…Yikes! Life sometimes gets in the way, as has been the case. The good news is all of the kids are GONE! h and I are finding reconnecting to be an incredible joy. So as W/we have begun playing once again, the hiatus has made everything so new to the both of U/us. Even the simplest game, I played today with him. he was locked in his chastity cage about 5 days ago, that’s when W/we started to “click” again. Today he was nagging Me about triviality and I had heard enough so I went and pulled out the stainless steel wrist shackles. he began to protest as I told him W/we were heading to the barn, where I intended to put him in My crossties for the balance of the day (see earlier post, he wasn’t a fan of the cane back then either). I told him I intended to cane his ass and then leave him tied up until dinner. Grovel, grovel…so I said, “OK, you bother me again I put one shackle on you, bother Me a second time, I put the other one on you. Bother Me a third time W/we go out to the barn for your caning.” No sooner than do I stop talking grovel, grovel…”click”. Five minutes later the same thing! Well it is later in the afternoon here and he has avoided the cross ties. he has a couple more hours to be a good boi. So I sent him out to rack leaves in one of My pastures.

Click Clack like the piggy he is 😦

So W/we are easing back into things but sadly, as h said years ago, this lifestyle (less chastity play) is for the youngsters~

It’s Been A LOOOooonnnneee Time

Are Submissive men weak?

I was asked today what is it about submissive men I like, are they not weak? So here are my thoughts about this…. outside of the fantasy of the internet or the male constructed image of what a dominant woman is…..

A truly submissive man is rarely weak in any sense, nor are they lazy, or stupid or a doormat.

Relationships, connections with and submission from a submissive man come in many forms., Here are my experiences, observations and the traits I like.

1. Often very intelligent, life’s thinkers… this appeals to me, clever minds need to be switched off. They also usually appreciate a clever woman and are not threatened by that.

2. True gentleman, they open doors for you, pull back chairs in restaurants, give you their coat if you are cold. I personally love this, it makes you feel looked after.

3. Your pleasure is theirs ….. this covers a wide range of things from making you laugh to making you orgasm, usually giving in nature rather than taking. There is nothing hotter than a man finding happiness, pleasure or arousal, by facilitating yours. They are usually appreciate being guided or for a woman to take the lead completely, without seeing it as Criticism or some kind of assault on their masculinity. Getting laid is not usually high on their agenda, getting you off usually is.

4. They see the beauty you have inside and out and usually put greater value on the beauty inside.

5. They appreciate the things you do for them, and notice when you do.

6. They love making you feel better or good. Usually they notice when your not feeling good too and do their best to help.

7. They are Attentive -Foot rubs, massages, bringing you coffee, stuff that just needs doing. They usually like to talk, share dreams, ideas and generally just spend time with you.

8. They will take over when you need them to… they understand that need and even the most Dominant of dommes need to just check out sometimes, submissive men will help you do that, simply because that’s what you need …. they like to meet your needs.

9. They are usually very passionate, about life, their interests, you!

10. They like to be showered with affection and praise and will do things to get that.

11. Hold you in high regard and tell you so, the love and devotion a submissive man will express to his chosen dominant is a beautiful thing.

12. They are comfortable with their masculinity and their submission, they adore the dominance of femininity.

13. Usually fans of a corseted woman, a big plus for me.

14. Usually protective of their dominant, they usually insist that others treat their lady with the same respect they do.

15. Often sensitive and feeling

16. Value cuddles and intimacy

17. Thoughtful gift givers, even if the gift is their time.

18. They worship you, this can take many forms from kissing your feet to telling you they feel lucky to be in your life.

19. Motivated, usually in most aspects in life, life’s doers.

20. They are not intimidated by your confidence, sexuality, success, ambition, achievements, they usually find that a turn on.

I could go on and on, but I find no weakness in a submissive man. Quite the opposite – I see strength in someone knowing what makes them happy, is confident to ignore the stereotype of “manly” behavior, has complete respect for women and sees my needs equal to or greater than his own…

I give thanks to the universe for creating such a glorious creature as the submissive man and I’m sure many other dominant women do to!

Merry Christmas 2017!

I have been very naughty!  I have been a bad girl and not kept up with our blog too well.  My apologies lots has been happening in our personal life that took priority.  But here we are still doing well and “h” has a new CB from Steelwerksextreme in Montreal, Que.

A few months back we had inquired to Chris Miers, owner of Steelwerksextreme, about a side project to see if he was interested, one thing lead to another and he showed me the latest in his line of minimalist CB’s, the Crucible 2.0.  All I can say is “had to have it”. Off to the races, so to speak, we went.  This project is anything but speedy.  Getting the correct size and location for the PA was really important, everything Chris makes is handmade, one off custom.  The fit to “h” is perfect, and the only way to get that perfect fit was to have him sized.  Chris provided us 2, 3-D plastic models of the 2.0.  He has made a variety of sizes which he sends to the client in advance of actually cutting the titanium for the real piece.  “h” tried each piece on for a few days and decided between the two which was a better fit.  I think this part of the process moved a bit faster because Chris had made us a Schandmaske a year prior and Chris had retained all the size information for “h”, so honing things in went a bit more quick than someone who has never had a SWE piece made.

The Crucible 2.0 is about as long as the Schandmaske but weighs not even 1/2 the weight of the Schandmaske.  Wearing the Schandmaske “h” would say after a few days that he had a discomfort due to what was a tugging on his PA, I assume from the weight.  We can say now that is no issue at all.  He said it is like a “second skin” and says you don’t even know you are wearing it.

The biggest advantage to the 2.0 is that the 2.0 is anatomically correct as you can see in the picture below.  It is ascetically pleasing to look at and is functional as well!  Chris has asked us to have sex with “h” in the 2.0 but I was a little reluctant until this morning and threw caution to the wind.  When we woke up I played with him until he was aching for sex.  Keeping it simple, as for not sure how this was going to work out, I had him mount me missionary style.  I eased him in me because he could feel nothing.  Well, well! This is a might fine feature!  I had an explosive orgasm, the 2.0 making “h” slightly larger all the way around making me feel more filled.  It was spectacular to say the least.  “h” on the other hand was properly denied and was ready to continue for more, but he will have to wait 😉 a loooonnnngggg time…hehehe!

We love Steel Werks Extreme….worth every penny, the only 1000% escape proof device on the market!

Ms. K


Well Well Wee Wee

“h” has still been locked since his Steelwerksextrereme Shandmaske arrived December 2nd, W/we are approaching 2 months of continuous forced chastity.  He has no issues with any daily functions; walking, running, or climbing a fence even.  He has no issues sleeping or the nocturnal erection pain most other devices cause.  The only issue, since is he is not using the urethral tube accessory, when he pees it tends to make a mess since it goes all over.  The urethral tube option may be coming into play here soon.

His craze for an orgasm seems to be subsiding, he has accepted his fate that I now control his cock and will allow him an orgasm when I decide it is time, and it’s not time yet.  I have inspected him on four different occasions and his PA is perfect, there is no tenderness, no swelling, no edema.   This CB is sooo perfect I am now convinced I can leave him locked continually forever if need be.

I have no intention to let him have an orgasm any time soon…;-)


Happy New Year-Ya’ll!

Happy New Year!  On December 17th I gave you an update on “h”‘s new journey with him being locked in his Steelwerksextreme chastity device.  He went into full time enforced chastity by Me on December 3rd.  Now one month and a day later I have continued to deny “h” an orgasm.  I have let him out 3 times to do a thorough cleaning and inspect his PA.  His PA is doing very well, fully healed, he gaged up to a 4ga from a 10g, which was the original piercing size.  Right now I have no plans on letting him cum, I said in My last update that I would let him have one on January 14th, but I am not sure about that either just yet.  he is very horney though…Hehehehe!!!!


It’s Driving him Mad!

h is now two weeks in his new Steelwerksextreme CB.  It is 1000% escape proof because it is connected to his”weewee” though his 4 gage PA.  I have let him out twice since he was initially locked for inspections and clean up.  I see no issues with longer term wear.  Not having had an “O” in two weeks has his mind fixated on Me, as it should be, W/we are now finally getting somewhere with this whole FLR, enforced chastity concept because of Steelwerksextreme.  Up until now nothing I had him locked in was either long-term or escape proof, but AH HA, that is no longer the case, I have his little brain and the cranial brain, right where I want them.  So in his effort to try and get some relief, he’s been going at this from another direction, that being his anus.  He is bound and determined to use his prostate as another avenue to get his relief, see the picture below of his arsenal of missiles he has been using, systematically increasing in girth…he’s so funny to watch and so far he’s failed!   Hehehe.  In the meantime I told him that his next time out of his CB will be January 14th, that will be a full month, and a total of six weeks without the “O”.

Stay tuned, I am loving the attention!


A Christmas Present for Me

“h” ordered Me a pendant from Steelwerksextreme that has 4 sapphires and hangs as a necklace.  Unscrew the two pieces and the Steelwerksextreme signature “S” key is concealed inside!  Chris thank you sooo much it is beautiful, can’t wait to wear it out and be asked about My new piece of jewelry.  More fun will be watching the expression on their faces as I explain it!