Monthly Archives: March 2015

So I Decided…

As I mentioned in an earlier post, the CB2000 style “CB’s” are not escape proof.  I have been researching full belts to put “h” into.  There are lots of bad press on My-Steel and Neosteel seems to not be scoring high marks lately.  I found a new belt that came to market late last year, Fancy Steel.  After many conversations with the owner I feel W/we have a reputable company who will deliver a quality product at a fair price.  Based in Australia, Fancy Steel seems to be focused on the customer, and customer satisfaction.  W/we ordered “h” his new full belt two days ago.  Hope to see it within a month, so stay tuned!  In the meantime he is back in his silicon cage for now…without lube it is escape proof!


Ok So I Tried Once Again

“h”is thick skinned.  Today I decided it was time to discipline him for his last Houdini escape from his CB.  I gaged him and placed him in the IMG_3727deprivation hood:

I laid him over our leather ottoman and locked his wrist cuffs to the legs and locked his leather cuffed ankles together, then I bound them to the other end of  the ottoman.  I lashed his waist in the middle about the ottoman so he could not wiggle.  Then over the next hour I used two of My favorite canes on his butt and this was the result;


Still not what I was hoping for “butt” he is made of cow hide!  My wrist became tired so I decided to rest and call it a day.  I must say though the last 20 minutes he laid very still, I even asked him if he was awake!  He evidentially entered the “zone” and he was floating on his endorphin high.  I barely got a “thumbs up” when I asked him if he wanted more.  I caned him very hard yet no blood.  I love “h”, he did good today, W/we will try again another day!


My Loving Letter to “h”

My loving sub I adore you and want the best for you.  O/our relationship is built on mutual respect for each other.  you and I have agreed that My role is to be the leader in the home, you will always be the man of the house with regard to the family but between you and I, W/we agree I am in charge of you; what you do, how you act and every other facet of you.  W/we have agreed that I make decisions regarding the two of U/us and you will obey Me and My authority is absolute.  W/we have agreed that your disobedience comes with a price you will pay, I am; jury, judge and the executioner of your punishment.

In that regard I have been remise of My duties to follow through and punish you properly, that is solely My fault and why you continue to falter.  So here is My plan, for My benefit, so that the Wife in Me does not succumb to your complaints during punishment.

Next time you will be in the crossties in O/our leather cuffs standing spread eagle in O/our barn…

Crosstie 1 Crosstie 2

you will be gagged…vf891acloseup__77778_1409591587_1280_1280

And then a sensory $_3deprivation hood over your head…

I will put in My MP3 earplugs and listen to music with noise cancelling headphones on as well…


This way I can’t look into your eyes and see your pain, and I can’t listen to your cries and hear your pain.  I will do what W/we agreed on when W/we entered into this journey.  I will get the results I need to correct your behavior…I will get this…


And I always Love you

“h” Stands For Houdini

In My last blog entry I was talking about the pros and cons of the CB2000 style CB’s and “h”s ability to escape several of these style devices that I have placed on his boi-toy over time and the resulting ramifications.

I have come to observe over time that “h” has, what I would term, “seasons” for lack of a better explanation.  Seasons being that during the Spring and Fall he enters a period where his sex drive is in hyperdrive and it’s during these periods when he gets in trouble the most, the rest of the year he is pretty docile and generally obedient.  Of course My response to his overtures for sexual release is to further ignore him and his whining and cries for release and sex.  This of course sends him over the edge and are the times when he plays Houdini in escaping his CB.  It’s also the times he receives his most frequent punishments for his transgressions against Me and My authority.  I have read many blogs and web sites about how some people term their submissive or slave as needing “training”.  I look at this notion differently. “h” is My husband and the love of My life first and foremost.  I cherish him and am protective of him always, just like a parent is of their child.  This is how I manage O/our relationship by correcting him when he is disobedient.  “h” is an adult, and in the general sense he knows the difference between right and wrong.  As well when I give him direction, My expectations of him are clear as how he is expected to respond.  If he decides not to follow My instructions he knows there will be consequences in the form of discipline punishment which I use to correct his behavior.  Simply it’s cause and effect.  I tell him what is expected and if he decides his response will be contrary to My orders he understands there will be consequences for his actions.

What I have found as My dilemma is the degree of discipline I end up administering to him versus what I planned to administer to him.  When “h” fails to obey Me I have to make a mental shift from being his Wife/Mistress to being his Disciplinarian/Mistress.  The discipline generally, but not always, will be administered within 24 hours and I don’t always tell him when it is coming, that is up to Me.  I have never had an issue switching into My disciplinarian role, it’s an easy transition for Me.  The problem is I go in with My expectation of the results of his punishment looking like this;

img12    FLRonthebench

and what I usual end up with is this;


Pretty pathetic results and it’s My fault.  The reason is every time that he is bound and I begin to whip or cane him, he cries out, even gaged I can hear him and Mistress/Wife battles the Mistress/Disciplinarian and Wife usually succumbs at some point.  The result is I failed to discipline him sufficiently and he gets off easy while this cycle repeats itself as he gets away with a punishment that did not fit the crime so he’s inclined to do this again the next time.

More in My next post of what I feel is a solution.

W/we Are Still Alive!

I cannot believe it has been several years since I posted on here, WOW!  Like John Lennon said, “Life is what happens while you are busy making other plans” and that has been O/our case here.  W/we moved from the north to the south a few years ago and this has caused an interruption in so many things, one of them that O/our D/s life had to slip down the list temporarily while W/we recovered form a huge upheaval in O/our world by moving.  Not that “h” was off the hook, or that W/we did not continue the journey, until now it’s just been at a much slower pace and he has remained locked all this time for sure.  But things are looking up and O/our new house, with all it’s issues and adjustments, plus a new way of life, has now become a home filled with love and many locks, padlocks that is for “h”!

I have kept “h” locked through out and along the way I have played with several other devices since his Steelworks from 2011.  I keep him locked mostly in the new silicon devices available.  It’s easier on him because it is flexible and moves with his body.  Also what I have come to determine that any of these devices, ala CB-2000 and the likes, are not escape proof given enough effort he can escape, and has on a couple occasions, which will be a topic for another post.  However, with these rigid devices, hard plastic or metal, they are very smooth and provide little friction between his penis and the tube, so given a little lubricant he can, and again he has, pulled his penis out from behind the ring against his body.  I thought the Steelworks with the urethral tube going into him, would preclude that from happening, but I was wrong, even that he could escape.  I have experimented with the silicon ones out there and  here is his,


What works best with this device is putting him in the smallest ring and use no lube to slide his little cock into the tube.  The friction is so great between him and the tube it is very difficult, nearly impossible, for him to escape, and if he does he will not be able to reinsert himself very easily. The only sure fire way to keep him in this type of a device however is having him get a PA and locking his head to the front of the tube.  I’m not to that point yet, because this process seems to working so far after several months but I plan to monitor him for the time and if there is still an escape issue then My next decision would have to be a PA or a Neosteel full belt, but as I mentioned, trying to insure the fit of a full stainless steel belt is correct is a huge concern of Mine give the logistics of live in the US and Neosteel being in Germany.  The PA is the easier fix for Me..hehe!!!